The determinants of women’s choice of an object are often made unrecognizable by social conditions. Where the choice is able to show itself freely, it is often made in accordance with the narcissistic ideal of the man whom the girl had wished to become. If the girl has remained in her attachment to her father–that is, in the Oedipus complex her choice is made according to the paternal type. Since, when she turned from her mother to her father, the hostility of her ambivalent relation remained with her mother, a choice of this kind should guarantee a happy marriage. But very often the outcome is of a kind that presents a general threat to such a settlement of the conflict due to ambivalence. The hostility that has been left behind follows in the train of the positive attachment and spreads over on to the new object.
The woman’s husband, who to begin with inherited from her father, becomes after a time her mother’s heir as well. So it may easily happen that the second half of a woman’s life may be filled by the struggle against her husband, just as the shorter first half was filled by her rebellion against her mother. When this reaction has been lived through, a second marriage may easily turn out very much more satisfying.
Thus the complete analysis responds to a very critical topic Femininity and Gender. This is the very common topic to have questions on women about their femininity and gender differentiation.
女性选择的对象的决定因素往往无法辨认的社会条件。这里选择的是能够自由地展示自己，它往往是在按照理想的人，女孩希望成为自恋的。如果女孩一直留在她的眷恋，她的父亲 – 也就是，在恋母情结，她的选择是根据父亲的类型。一直以来，当她从她的母亲对她的父亲，她的敌意矛盾关系仍然与她的母亲，这种选择应保证幸福的婚姻。但很多时候的结果是一种由于矛盾心理的冲突的解决，提出了一种通用的威胁。在火车上的积极附件的敌意已经落伍如下，并传播到新的对象。